A common misperception is that couples counseling is only for people who have experienced major trauma in their relationship, such as an affair. But the truth is, a steady diet of feeling misunderstood, not really heard, and not really appreciated can cause chronic distress in a marriage. A relationship that makes us feel seen and loved for who we are is something most of us want. Even if a relationship starts out that way, most of us also know they can take a different, unwanted path from what we imagined. That old saying “relationships are hard work” becomes all too clear to many, if not most of us. Consulting with a relationship professional can really pay off in the new perspectives and skills couples can use to improve not only their relationship, but often those with other important people in their lives as well.